The first time I met B, he had skateboarded by and then came trotting back to introduce himself. I left the brief exchange thinking there was something vaguely familiar about him. It took me a few minutes to realize what it was. I turned to S and exclaimed, “That guy totally looks like a dinosaur!”

Fortunately for B, I was obsessed with dinosaurs as a child. In kindergarten when my teacher asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up, I replied “a paleontologist” because I wanted to spend my life digging for dinosaur bones.

Fast forward through seven years of dating—four of which have been long-distance and three of those agonizingly international long-distance (not recommended, my friends)—to the last Friday night of 2013. I returned home from work to see B sitting on my bed wearing a snazzy knit tie and a sheepish smile. After weeks of mysteriously promising to visit me in San Diego, he had finally appeared.

“Surprise! Open your Christmas present,” he said, handing me a wrapped gift.

Inside was a photo book he had created entitled A Dinosaur Love Story, which documented some of our relationship highlights in words as well as photographed scenes reenacted by, of course, dinosaurs. We read down memory lane together, reliving moments like sharing a first kiss at the top of the Eiffel Tower and eating too many snacks at the drive-in movie theater. It was a wonderfully nostalgic journey that took us though years of memories to the last page of the book—a picture of a dinosaur with a ring in its mouth.

B then got down on one knee, uttered a few sweet words that I don’t remember, and slipped the ring on my finger.

Cheers to dinosaurs, love, dinosaur love, and finally being back on the same continent. Together. Forever!

And now the world will see all my life stages in my hodgepodge room:DCIM100GOPRO DCIM100GOPROLots of laughs. DCIM100GOPROIt was quite a long book.DCIM100GOPRODinosaurs are silly. DCIM100GOPROWhat is he reaching for…?DCIM100GOPROOh snap.DCIM100GOPRONose scrunchies.DCIM100GOPROSparkly!DCIM100GOPROT-Rex arms.DCIM100GOPROWe’re engaged!DCIM100GOPROI finally noticed the stealthy camera.DCIM100GOPROHappily ever after continues.


Dinosaur Love: Fambly.

May 16, 2013

IMAG0531This is one of my favorite pictures of B and I (right and left, respectively).
K, the talented artist, is also the little nugget in the middle.

Dinosaur Love: Croce’s.

April 30, 2013

B wordlessly appeared in my doorway gallantly holding a bright bouquet of yellow roses and looking like he had just stepped off a movie set. He was dressed in crisp black slacks, a perfectly tailored button-up shirt, sleek aviators, and his classic million dollar smile.

Uh, helloooo.

This was a big date. After a whirlwind two months of raw food, parking tickets, a whole lotta whispering, and a teensy bit of hand-holding, this was finally where things came to a head. We were about to face the elephant in the room and look the interminably awkward “Define the Relationship” monster (otherwise known as DTR) right in the eye.

But not quite yet. We had to leave the apartment first.

Despite B’s dapper getup, I myself was inexplicably attired in faded blue jeans, a snorefest of a casual blue sweater, and beat up brown flats. I had not a lick of makeup on and I think I still did not own a hairbrush at this time in my life. In an even more perplexing turn of events, I opted not to change before heading out–a stubborn decision I will question to my grave. Sigh. I have always been a late bloomer. (But that is why I have my relentlessly sparkling personality, right? Heh.)

And so we continued on. We rolled our way downtown in the hatchback Subaru, and B proceeded to exhuberantly belt his way through every song that came on the radio. I really did not feel like I knew this guy well enough to be in the presence of a such unabashed freedom, so I mainly rode in embarrassed silence (though I did quite admire his severe lack of shame). At the time, I thought his flamboyant histrionics were perhaps inspired by nerves or over-compensation of self-confidence, but I know now it is just…normal.

Maybe he got himself too riled up after his riveting vocal performances, but after we arrived, I stood and watched in confusion as B made multiple attempts to feed cash through the credit card slot of the parking meter. When he finally realized his error, he wordlessly submitted the correct form of payment and herded me along.

We strolled up a to glittering seafood establishment, and while I gawked, B with his trademark confidence, coolly stated his full name and reservation time. The hostess scanned her list. And then began flipping through the pages of her appointment book. And then scanned her list again. After several minutes of strangely prolonged searching, she offered, “I…don’t see your name anywhere. Are you sure you’re not Frederick?”

I guffawed and then before I knew it, B had grabbed my hand was briskly dragging me through a blinking crosswalk. It was not until we reached the other side of the street and had traversed a few blocks that I realized B had accidentally stopped at the wrong restaurant.

It seemed terribly wicked to laugh in that hilariously disoriented moment for B, but I was, in all honesty, very amused. This guy’s feathers were impossible to ruffle and his measures of self-assurance were always brimming. Yet here he was bumbling about (ah, young love). Still, ever the consummate smooth fellow, at least by appearance, he played it off like it ain’t no thing, and before long, we appeared at the intended eatery, an equally fancy restaurant with its own sleek exterior.

“I know you like live jazz (such a stalker), so I thought Croce’s would be a great place to enjoy some tonight,” B revealed. Except, as it turned, we were underage and not actually allowed to sit in the live music lounge.

So there we were, relegated to a table in the corner of the restaurant, B in his finest, me in what was decidedly not my finest, listening to soft tinklings of far-off piano stylings, and enjoying what was theoretically a milestone dinner that was panning out to be much more like a comedy of errors.

I recently read that Croce’s will be closing at the end of the year and permanently leaving its long-held post in the Gaslamp. I am sure so many of the multitudes that have floated in and out over the decades have a wide array of memories—stories of romance and light-hearted laughs like ours even—attached to such a historic locale, B and myself included. There will always be a sense of comical charm, so reflective of what our relationship continues to embody today, evoked by the quintessential jazz bar lounge. Just as quaint memories of old times past live on to bring nostalgic delight far into the present and the future, so too will the legendary Croce’s establishment.

And hopefully B and my history as well. Six years and counting.

(If that also tells you how the DTR went. Ahem.)

5.8Peewees on the beach six years ago. That’s a whole first grader.